conversation fillers and cheezy pickup lines
each time i’m going out with people or friends (?), at least one of them makes a remark about how mute i am. i think the main reasons for my silent are :
- i’m shy
- most of the time i don’t feel the need to talk, or i don’t think that people could benefit from hearing my opinion about stuff
- i can’t express myself (this actually is a cause AND a consequence)
- i don’t like to talk to talk, i.e. talk to fill the silence
this last point makes me think of commonly used phrases that people ask, even if most of the time they don’t really care about the answer. the funny thing is that the person asking is often aware that his questions are pointless, but silence makes uncomfortable =) . so here we go :
- “how are you?”
- “the weather is nice today” - and any sentence about the weather
- “what are you doing in life?” - do people really care? this one is a bad conversation starter…
- “how is your project/work coming along?” - do you really care? or are you just expecting me to return the question so YOU can talk about YOUR stuff?
…i’m sure i can come up with more